How sure are you that your kid is really your kid?

[THL]

Guys aren't ever unfaithful to their partners in an emotional sense.

I have two things to say about this; First is that being unfatihful is being unfaithful no matter if that is solely in a physical way or in an emotional way. Secondly, men can be unfaithful in an emotional sense - I will personally attest to that. In fact, I will go so far as to say that men can be unfaithful emotionally and not physically at the same time.

They might wanna screw a hot girl when offered on a plate, but thats different to what a woman does when she gets screwed.

I don't think I completely understand what you mean. If you mean that men have sex just to have sex and women want more from it - then I am afraid you are wrong. There are plenty of women that don't want relationships or emotional strings attached, definitely not as many as men, but there is still a fair enough number of them. Plus it would depend on the man in question. For example, for as long as I can remember, I have been obsessed with Keanu Reeves. Anyone I have ever dated has been told that, in the off chance that Keanu knocks on my door one day, I reserve the right to make anyone in my home leave and my door is getting locked for, at the very least, the rest of the night. I don't want a relationship with the man (I can only hear the word "dude" so many times in any given day), and I would never want to lose the current relationship I may be in at the time for him. But there is no way on this green earth that I would pass that opportunity up!

anyway, I'm pretty certain girls change partners a lot more often than guys.

I don't know if I agree with this either. I think that women normally offer more to a relationship emotionally than men do, so I think that they would be less likely to have an affair. I think it is, usually, easier for men to have "casual sex" than women. Plus, there is the whole reputation issue with women. If a man has many conquests to brag about, it is seen just as that...he has gone out and conquered. If a woman has done the same, even with the same amount of people, she is seen as "easy" or "slutty".

[Asim Aquil]

As far as I see it, if having a new chick to sleep with everynight, is your thing, then thats ok. But its not cool, if you're in a relationship with one of them. Know what I mean?

[Asim Aquil]

One of my favorite lines by this guy who wrote a book about confidence and women, I never read it, but I liked the line:

"I have the inner-belief that I'm the type of man, that can walk into a club alone and come out with your girlfriend".

From my observation a woman has very easy emotional buttons that can be discovered by any clever man. These are attraction buttons and for an affair, all you need is that. If there's no attraction, no amount of buying her gifts, being nice and acting like a wuss would get you anywhere. But if she feels that attraction, there's nothing she can do about you "getting" her.

It can be that easy.

[THL]

From my observation a woman has very easy emotional buttons that can be discovered by any clever man. These are attraction buttons and for an affair, all you need is that. If there's no attraction, no amount of buying her gifts, being nice and acting like a wuss would get you anywhere. But if she feels that attraction, there's nothing she can do about you "getting" her.

It can be that easy.

I don't know Asim - I have been attracted to many a man that was not able to push my buttons, if you know what I mean.

[Aryan]

Okay...thats like a typical response I'd get from a girl. Normally I'd nod and pretend to agree, but since its the internet, I'll give you my honest opinion.

I have two things to say about this; First is that being unfatihful is being unfaithful no matter if that is solely in a physical way or in an emotional way.

There is a massive difference for guys, but not really for girls. Girls for the most part want to have an emotional relationship with a guy while sleeping with him, whereas most guys get put off by having an emotional relationship. Guys can't really relate to women emotionally, and the rare time that they do, they probably end up marrying them. I'll go into more detail later.

Secondly, men can be unfaithful in an emotional sense - I will personally attest to that. In fact, I will go so far as to say that men can be unfaithful emotionally and not physically at the same time.

Okay, you're right on this, guys can and do cheat on women emotionally. Happens especially when guys get bored of their wives. But when I was said it I was talking about guys in my category, young(ish). There's no way I would cheat on a girl emotionally, mainly because I dont see the point in having a relationship with a girl that involves anything other than sex. Sorry, but listening to girls telling me how *****y/slutty their girlfriends or worse, reading out their crappy poetry which I have to pretend I understand is not my idea of a time pass, and the only time I'd consider it was if I could screw her eventually....

I'm into beer, football, military stuff and fossils. You find me a girl with those interests and for good measure, Kashmiri, I may actually see things differently with them.

I don't think I completely understand what you mean. If you mean that men have sex just to have sex and women want more from it - then I am afraid you are
wrong.

Women definitely find sex pleasurable, but only most only seem to use no strings sex to get back at their ex's, or to piss their boyfriends off. There are a few women who do have sex with muliple partners for sex only, but unfortunately they get stigmatised as sluts.

There are plenty of women that don't want relationships or emotional strings attached, definitely not as many as men, but there is still a fair enough number of them

Plus it would depend on the man in question. For example, for as long as I can remember, I have been obsessed with Keanu Reeves. Anyone I have ever dated has been told that, in the off chance that Keanu knocks on my door one day, I reserve the right to make anyone in my home leave and my door is getting locked for, at the very least, the rest of the night. I don't want a relationship with the man (I can only hear the word "dude" so many times in any given day), and I would never want to lose the current relationship I may be in at the time for him. But there is no way on this green earth that I would pass that opportunity up!

Okay....girls can be slutty, but to a far far lesser extent than guys can. You'd only prepared to have an affair with Keenu Reeves, a guys standards would be much lower. I, for instance would be prepared have an affair with a girl with bigger knockers than my current girl.

I don't know if I agree with this either. I think that women normally offer more to a relationship emotionally than men do, so I think that they would be less likely to have an affair. I think it is, usually, easier for men to have "casual sex" than women. Plus, there is the whole reputation issue with women. If a man has many conquests to brag about, it is seen just as that...he has gone out and conquered. If a woman has done the same, even with the same amount of people, she is seen as "easy" or "slutty".

This is totally true, if a women sleeps around a lot, she does get tagged as a slut, or whore. But u have to blame women for the negative connotations involved with those words, us guys have nothing to do with it. I'd like more girls to be sluts, it would certainly make my life a lot happier


On a somewhat related note, people say I have a passing resemblance to Keenu Reeves...

Only messing

[THL]

There is a massive difference for guys, but not really for girls. Girls for the most part want to have an emotional relationship with a guy while sleeping with him, whereas most guys get put off by having an emotional relationship...

I suppose I can see this about most women. I think that perhaps I am a minority when it comes to women, then, cause I try with everything I have to keep emotions at bay if it is at all possible. Getting all emotional does not seem to be a good idea, for me at least - the last time I "followed my emotions", I ended up quitting my job, dropping out of college, stopped calling my Army recruiter back and moved to Camp Lejeune since that is where my "emotions" led me. None of this turned out to be a good idea since those "emotions" quickly faded and instead turned into a 6 year sentence. The time before that, I let someone very important walk away from me that I have regretted letting walk ever since.

guys in my category, young(ish)...reading out their crappy poetry which I have to pretend I understand is not my idea of a time pass, and the only time I'd consider it was if I could screw her eventually....Women definitely find sex pleasurable, but only most only seem to use no strings sex to get back at their ex's, or to piss their boyfriends off.

I don't know how young you are, but you cannot be that much younger than I am and so again, I can only assume that I am in the minority of women. I have never used sex to get back at an ex or to upset a boyfriend. I guess I did use it to "test" someone, if you will, or to try and get someone else's attention, but as I mentioned, he walked, so I don't recommend this as a strategy.

There are a few women who do have sex with muliple partners for sex only, but unfortunately they get stigmatised as sluts...Okay....girls can be slutty, but to a far far lesser extent than guys can. You'd only prepared to have an affair with Keenu Reeves, a guys standards would be much lower. I, for instance would be prepared have an affair with a girl with bigger knockers than my current girl.

I think this goes with age. My standards were much much lower when I was younger than they are now. I was way more reckless and put much less thought into choices made....much like you mention men are....hmmm...

On a somewhat related note, people say I have a passing resemblance to Keenu Reeves...

If that is true, I will change my previous statement to read that "if Keanu Reeves or Aryan show up at my door..."

[Asim Aquil]

How many men could you have possibly met? (no no, not really looking for that answer...), chances are there are still billions of men, that have had easier, catches.

There comes one, that does defy the laws of (of?) whatever, but more often there comes those who just don't admit their buttons are being pushed and controlled like a remote control.

Okay, you're right on this, guys can and do cheat on women emotionally. Happens especially when guys get bored of their wives. But when I was said it I was talking about guys in my category, young(ish). There's no way I would cheat on a girl emotionally, mainly because I dont see the point in having a relationship with a girl that involves anything other than sex. Sorry, but listening to girls telling me how *****y/slutty their girlfriends or worse, reading out their crappy poetry which I have to pretend I understand is not my idea of a time pass, and the only time I'd consider it was if I could screw her eventually....

Well I really don't agree that women can't cheat on a guy unemotionally (and its quite common too), I'll back you up on the fact that while men can cheat emotionally, the fact that even if there's no emotional component to it, there's a high chance an emotionally content man would cheat on his partner, if there's a chance that there would be easy, good, unconsequentional, safe, wild and crazy sex and the wife/girl won't get to know about it. We're obviously discounting religious or any other moral factors that might play into his brain, that might prevent it, but he sure would want to. Thats like a male button.

Women just put less emphasis on looks than men. There are quite a few fat, short, old and bald men out there, with 9's to prove this right. So to get her to cheat, you'd need to know those buttons. Probably the scary thing for all women out there would be that, ALL men can do it. Whereas for women, they've got to be super hot.

[THL]

How many men could you have possibly met? (no no, not really looking for that answer...), chances are there are still billions of men, that have had easier, catches.

There comes one, that does defy the laws of (of?) whatever, but more often there comes those who just don't admit their buttons are being pushed and controlled like a remote control.

I suppose I need to work on my stereotypical Oh woe is me, Please help me big strong man, I am just the weaker female sex role in society then, cause anyone controlling me like a "remote control" - Well, let's just say that has not happened as of yet. Perhaps TopHat can find a way to make me bow down and become subservient...but I doubt it.