Advice needed

[leib10]

Hello all,

I come to you all because you guys are older and more experienced than I am.

This last week of living in the dorm with my roommate has been pure hell. Him and his girlfriend have basically commandeered the room for themselves, making me feel unwelcome and uncomfortable there to the point that I've been going to the lobby downstairs to sleep. They are constantly in there, not allowing me to study or sleep (a few times I've slept on a couch in the downstairs lobby just so I could sleep relatively peacefully).

Last night was the last straw. I came home from hanging out with some friends at around 11:30, and when I tried to open my door I found that it was barricaded and my roommate and his girlfriend were having sex inside. After giving them a few minutes to get themselves together, they had the gall to yell at me for my terrible and inconsiderate intrusion into our room. I told my roommate, my best friend for five years, that this was never going to work and that I was going to move out at the earliest opportunity. He stormed out of the room, accusing me of throwing away our friendship.

So my question to you is this: do I ignore his complaining and *****ing and go about my business as usual, or do I avoid him at all costs and be in the room as little as necessary? I'm leaning towards the former, but the latter or both may be an option as well. I have to make it for the next two weeks, which is going to be tough, but not impossible. Any advice is greatly appreciated.

[omon]

bring a girl yourself, and kick them out, give him a tase of his own medecine,

[sappersgt]

Originally Posted by omon

bring a girl yourself, and kick them out, give him a tase of his own medecine,

Ask him if he'll share, I mean if he thinks you're that good of friends. Better yet, ask HER if she'll share.

[TopHatter]

Leib,
First and foremost, your "friend" is a complete assclown. He needs a baseball bat across the back of his head.

Fortunately for his girlfriend, she's a girl otherwise she could use the same treatment.

That room is not their private little whorehouse. They have no right to deny you equal access to it and if I was in your shoes I'm sure fists would be flying at this point, if for nothing else because your "friend" desperately needs a good ass-kicking.

Avoid him if you want to but don't avoid your room.

As for him, who gives a f--k about him or what he thinks.

[Parihaka]

1: Ask them to have sex in her room.

2: set up a web cam in an obvious place, doesn't need to be hooked up to anything, I'm sure they'll get the point.

[JAD_333]

Ah, a learning experience.

If a heart to heart won't do it, stick to your threat and move out.

Don't waste more time on him. You're in school for a reason; keep your goal in sight.

Maybe his next roomie will be someone with Ironduke's disposition, and he'll really get a learning experience.

[Dreadnought]

Lieb,
Your paying an equal amount yes? Therefore talk to your friend and tell him the very same. Once and awhile is cool cause it gets you out of the place out to roam. Too many times and theres no respect. It doesnt matter how you handle it just know not to be afraid of confrontation over what is your space as well. Or as the priors have said turn about is far play. Remember work (school) is first and foremost and trust me with what limited time you have to correct this problem chance will present a solution and you will seize the oppertunity when recognized.

P.S. no hot bunking.

[leib10]

Thanks guys. I saw him tonight and I think we're pretty much going to ignore each other, which is fine by me. I'm not going to be denied access to my room, and neither will I deny him his space. I just want no trouble and no complications until I can get out of here.

I just hope he's willing to be as reasonable. If not, I'm going to have to get the school involved, and I really don't want to do that.

Thanks for all of your help guys. It really is appreciated, especially coming from familiar people when I'm in an unfamiliar place.

[Ironduke]

Maybe it would be better to rent a room near school off-campus?

[taygone]

forgive my intrusion on this matter, but I'm kind of experiencing the samething right now. Me and my bestfriend since HS have an apartment and he's always bringing ppl over when I want to just veg out. It's not that severe, but my bud knows MAN LAW #1 Bros. before well you know the rest.
I'd move out if he's that inconsiderate to make/let you sleep in a lobby. Before I'd go I'd invite some ppl over before he gets there and hog the place to myself for as long as possible.

[Debbie]

As always, the party is over and I show up. Keep us informed Leib.

[FibrillatorD]

I might as well be the one to say it. You have to fight fire with fire, Leib. I encountered this sort of thing freshman year (except with three roommate and myself in a single dorm room). There's only one solution. Return the favor, let the roommie and girlfriend come in on you doing the five-knuckle shuffle sometime. You've got to mark your territory.

[gunnut]

Originally Posted by sappersgt

Ask him if he'll share, I mean if he thinks you're that good of friends. Better yet, ask HER if she'll share.

Or even just ask to watch the next time they have sex. Say you don't mind her staying all the time, but you gotta get something out of it too since you're paying half the rent.

[dave lukins]

Show him all these answers..Then tell him your Baseball friend Tophatter is coming down for the Weekend to get some batting practice in

[lemontree]

I like the webcam idea