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Ray · 04-19-2008, 15:56 PM

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Originally Posted by Adux

Tronic,

How can you in your right mind say, Love marriage is the most widely accepted method of finding a partner. Are we still talking about India? Yes, Love marriage is more and more accepted but it is still a far lower percentile than arranged

CNN.com - In the Field

No, we are talking of Patagonia.

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Ramneeq drove a $40,000 car,

That's India?

Have you checked what Mittal's daughter wedding cost? Why don't you use it as a standard Indian wedding?

And are you sure the car that the bloke was coming in was not a hired one?

The Americans all look smart and rich, but the tuxedos they use are all hired!!

It will make the American blush as to what cheapskates they are in organising weddings.

Adux · 04-19-2008, 15:59 PM

Ray,

With due respect. I wasnt venting against Love Marriages or anything, as I am all for that and I would only marry in that way. But for you sweep a broad brush looking at your surroundings and stating that Love Marriages is the norm in India and not Arranged Marriages. Why dont you do a little google search and come back. I am sure there will be some more word play.

Adu

Adux · 04-19-2008, 16:01 PM

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Arranged Marriages

The concept of arranged marriages is not a very unusual norm in India. It is how most of the Indians get married. No matter how westernized India may have become arranged marriages are still preferred in most of the Indian families. The concept of arrange marriage may sound impractical to the Western world but for Indians it is something they prefer. It is a system, which originated when child marriage was a custom in the country. The purpose of child marriage was to restrict the children from marrying outside their community and social status. The practice mainly began as a way of uniting and maintaining the rich and the upper caste families. Caste system gave birth to arrange marriage. The system mainly developed to promote caste system or racism. The system of arrange marriage has its pros and cons. On one side it is seen as a medium to promote racism and class system. On the other hand it gives parents control over family matters and members.

This system of arrange marriage, which originated mainly as the tool of the upper caste people to protect their community and to maintain their social status they wanted their children to marry someone from the same caste and same social background. Eventually it spread to the lower caste of the society where it is used for the same purpose. The rituals and customs of arrange marriages vary depending on the caste and religion of the people or whether he or she is a Hindu or a Muslim. Marriage is not just coming together of two individuals but an alliance between two families. The practices of arrange marriage has almost become synonymous with the Indian society and culture. Compare to earlier period the practices are not so rigid at present. But one of the social evil associated with arrange marriage is dowry in the modern Indian society. In most part of the country arrange marriage is the best medium to take dowry. Nowadays marriages are more like a trade than a social custom. People find it an easy medium to make money. This is one of the biggest drawbacks of arrange marriages.

Am\.

Arranged Marriages in India - Article on Arranged Marriages - Arranged Marriages

Ray · 04-19-2008, 16:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Adux

Ray,

With due respect. I wasnt venting against Love Marriages or anything, as I am all for that and I would only marry in that way. But for you sweep a broad brush looking at your surroundings and stating that Love Marriages is the norm in India and not Arranged Marriages. Why dont you do a little google search and come back. I am sure there will be some more word play.

Adu

When were you last in India?

Care to giving me your address in a PM with your grievances.

I will have friends looking into it and if they fail I will go to the media!!

Ready?

Whole lot of sh*it will fly, but you will have all the media attention including CNN and BBC.

Greater glory than what WAB can give!!

Adux · 04-19-2008, 16:07 PM

uuuuhhh, ok

Why Ray, You want my number; Should I PM that to you to show I reside in India, or should Pari do an IP Check.

Ray · 04-19-2008, 16:08 PM

Adux,

How much of India do you know.

Let us know where you have visited and what is your experience.

Or is it confined to just your home?

Adux · 04-19-2008, 16:18 PM

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In India, 95 per cent of marriages are arranged

Are arranged marriages better? - Today Tonight

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No exact statistics are available, but according to U.S. News and World Report, approximately 95 percent of marriages in India are arranged

India's arranged marriage traditions live on in U.S., yet can cause conflict - Minnesota Daily

USE GOOGLE

arranged marriages in India statistics - Google Search

Adux · 04-19-2008, 16:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Ray

Adux,

How much of India do you know.

Let us know where you have visited and what is your experience.

Or is it confined to just your home?

Ray,

I have told enough, and I have posted enough and more links prove my point. While you have given ziltch. This wasnt my intention anyways. Goodbye from me on this thread. I am sure you can decide for yourself who is confined to home and who is not.

Adu

Adux · 04-19-2008, 16:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Tronic

Ray sir!

Those words taken straight out of my mouth! Wow, I tried to keep a lid on the frustration, and avoided visiting that other thread for the same reason, but thanks for letting the steam out! Turned my frustration, into making me laugh my stomach out.

Tronic,

Not because you have been found wanting in your contention by Jay, Chankya and Me.

Tronic · 04-19-2008, 16:32 PM

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Originally Posted by Adux

Tronic,

How can you in your right mind say, Love marriage is the most widely accepted method of finding a partner. Are we still talking about India? Yes, Love marriage is more and more accepted but it is still a far lower percentile than arranged

CNN.com - In the Field

That report is where they exclusively went to get behind the scenes of an arranged marriage. And yes, because arrange marriage is 'accepted', does not necessarily mean that it is the norm which everyone follows. Even I accept arranged marriages, everyone has a say, everyone is happy, nothing wrong in it; but that doesn't mean, I will go and ask my parents to arrange a marriage for me.

Wheres the fun in that? You are using their figure that "90% of the youth accept arranged marriage" as a "90% of youth reject love marriage." Sorry, but thats some faulty logic.

Tronic · 04-19-2008, 16:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Adux

Tronic,

Not because you have been found wanting in your contention by Jay, Chankya and Me.

Nope, Just can't argue with your attitude of self victimization, and why the rest should provide special privileges to your people. You have other people starving, but no, only your people deserve to be fed!

Ray · 04-19-2008, 16:46 PM

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Originally Posted by Adux

Ray,

I have told enough, and I have posted enough and more links prove my point. While you have given ziltch. This wasnt my intention anyways. Goodbye from me on this thread. I am sure you can decide for yourself who is confined to home and who is not.

Adu

Media is motivated.

Have you not seen how the predict they election results so convincingly and then have mud ion their face?

I am a hands on man.

You got a problem?

Let's solve it.

Why grouse and let it linger on?

If you have more experience in roaming the country and the villages than me, then I reckon it is time I made peace with my Maker!!

Ray · 04-19-2008, 16:58 PM

adux,

One faces victimisation as individuals and not as a group!

I have faced more victimisation that you can imagine! I was a non marital amongst those the British termed as martial.

I proved the British theory wrong.

Not by providing motivated links, but by sheer example!!

Likewise you say that South Indians are kaloos and not martial. Sri Lanka proved all wrong. The so called kallo Thambis was no less than anyone else!!

Perceptions and prejudices over centuries are slowly being proved as bogus.

Wake up!

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He who knows not and knows not he knows not: he is a fool - shun him.

He who knows not and knows he knows not: he is simple - teach him.

He who knows and knows not he knows: he is asleep - wake him.

He who knows and knows he knows: he is wise - follow him

Tronic · 04-19-2008, 17:26 PM

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Originally Posted by Adux

Are arranged marriages better? - Today Tonight

India's arranged marriage traditions live on in U.S., yet can cause conflict - Minnesota Daily

USE GOOGLE

arranged marriages in India statistics - Google Search

Adu, very funny, since from what you yourself quoted:

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No exact statistics are available, but according to U.S. News and World Report, approximately 95 percent of marriages in India are arranged

Woops! just some more predictions!

Adux · 04-19-2008, 23:49 PM

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Originally Posted by Tronic

Nope, Just can't argue with your attitude of self victimization, and why the rest should provide special privileges to your people. You have other people starving, but no, only your people deserve to be fed!

Self-victimization? Is that what you call 'Casteism' these days. Did that not happen? I have not been victimized though my family has been, I have had a great life and continue to have one. I dont take anything from anyone though I do quite a lot of social work, more than my consciousness my work demands it. I got a very successful business, and I do quite well. In fact in reality, it is you who are calling victimization for the fact that Reservation exists. Not me.

I suggest, as I have before if you dont like my 'vicitmized behavior' use the ignore button. I am not going to say that Casteism was not as bad as it is said by the 'reservation lobby' for your sake

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04-19-2008, 15:59 PM	#17 (permalink)
Adux Banished Join Date: 07-29-05 Location: Cochin Posts: 2,931 Country:	Ray, With due respect. I wasnt venting against Love Marriages or anything, as I am all for that and I would only marry in that way. But for you sweep a broad brush looking at your surroundings and stating that Love Marriages is the norm in India and not Arranged Marriages. Why dont you do a little google search and come back. I am sure there will be some more word play. Adu

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Ray Postmaster General *Military Professional* Join Date: 08-20-03 Posts: 26,144 Country:	Adux, How much of India do you know. Let us know where you have visited and what is your experience. Or is it confined to just your home?

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