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Tamara
07 Apr 14,, 09:28
We might say that we will eventually do those things we should be doing when the pressure is less, but it seems that we never really reach a very calm time at all.......probably because those things we are avoiding stress the heck out of us!

On one hand, I have several very imaginative ways of handling how stress affects me. I push it out of mind, stop thinking about it, diary write, throw up a counter program against it, release it, become a fatalist, play it into fantasy, and so forth.

But on the other hand, for all those methods above, they are something like a drug for after they do what they do, some component that is causing the stress is still there.

Maybe..........................because it could be that a lot of the stress we feel we cause ourselves. In a training program I was once in, we described the stress on the level of a train wreck. It was so high that it was possible for us in drills to jump to the wrong conclusion, do the wrong action. Driving to the course one morning (after a previous day's drill that I really screwed up), I decided that I wasn't going to worry about passing any more. I was going to learn what I could and if I had to repeat it, so be it. I released the stress and in an instant, it all dropped.

Now doing that isn't the perfect way because at that point, one is at the mercy of the fates. In that particular case, I turned my performance around, impressed my teachers, and passed. But there are other cases where no longer working about the point means surrendering all possibility of success.

Or I have a major op coming up. I've prepped as best I can for it, know it isn't perfect, but as that I can't do anymore, I am not going to get all wound up worrying about it. I'll handle it in stride the best I can if and when things start happening the wrong way.

But maybe, that's what it is all about. Stress is always there.......just like the atmosphere of the planet. It's how we allow it to interact with us and we cause our own high BP and grittery teeth.

OF COURSE, there is always carrying the neutralization of stress a bit too far as Kryten pointed out in "Rimmerworld":

" Are you of the school that, when faced with bad news, prefers to hear that news naked and unvarnished, or are you of the ilk that prefers to live in happy and blissful ignorance of the nightmare you're facing?"

bonehead
07 Apr 14,, 19:48
The best you can do is manage stress. You won't be stress free until you drop that oxygen habit.

FJV
07 Apr 14,, 20:58
A lot of stress is made worse by people in their own mind.
For instance by running very negative scenarios in their mind over and over again.
If you don't do that you reduce a lot of stress.

Also you may wanna keep a little bit of stress, just to keep things interesting/healthy.

Gun Grape
08 Apr 14,, 00:58
Do away with stress? Are you kidding?

I thrive on stress.

Oracle
08 Apr 14,, 07:18
Stress is something that cannot be wished away. It depends on how one handles the situation. If something bothers me I think of the worst possible scenario and believe that things would be better from there. Every 3-4 months, I pack my bags and set off to some hill station with friends, get drunk and curse things. :biggrin: The point is to socialize with like-minded people, and there were times when I got some very valuable ideas/suggestions on those short trips to de-stress.

bonehead
08 Apr 14,, 08:56
Do away with stress? Are you kidding?

I thrive on stress.



Good, you can have mine.

Doktor
08 Apr 14,, 09:10
Good, you can have mine.

He has his own wife.

Oracle
08 Apr 14,, 09:43
He has his own wife.

What about you, Dok? What about the missus?

Tamara
08 Apr 14,, 09:58
A lot of stress is made worse by people in their own mind.
For instance by running very negative scenarios in their mind over and over again.
If you don't do that you reduce a lot of stress.

Also you may wanna keep a little bit of stress, just to keep things interesting/healthy.

True enough. Life without a demon or two gets boring, the good things don't seem as fun as they should.

As far as hanging around like minded people, well, sort of. The catch is that I do so many different things, that people in one world aren't necessarily all in my world. I work full time, I scuba dive, I dance, I do other things.

Further, since I am a graveyard worker, my social life, what there is of it, is not normal.

Still, stress speaking, I have found ways over the years to handle things. My main work boss came in this morning. laying down on me his latest grief. I listened, I was supportive, I offered suggestions, but in the quick end with my mind already focused on the next immediate task, I told him I would put the issue on the back burner. A type of shield was up, not allowing his issue to draw me in.

OH, my "poor" student! Chance put him in the position for me to go over with him about the things he missed on the test and best said, I'm like a cheerleader ..................escaped from the asylum. Bubbly, knowledgeable, talkative.............and impossible to get away from.

BUT......that is one of the ways I handle stress. I take it and play a part. Now by the time I came across the student, I was probably well into the stress handling (things not going entirely right and just handle it all in stride with a fun approach to "Don't get mad, don't get angry, solve the problem") and that was just another level. Either that or I was riding the wave that I had transformed the day's stresses into.

It sounds perfect, but it isn't for that method doesn't always work, but when it does, it's okay.

Doktor
08 Apr 14,, 15:08
What about you, Dok? What about the missus?

I never said I thrive on stress. Tho, I can't really complain on the missus.

sated buddha
08 Apr 14,, 15:15
I never said I thrive on stress. Tho, I can't really complain on the missus.

Tell me she's not leaning over your shoulder as you typed that ......

You can use PM.

Doktor
08 Apr 14,, 18:14
I clearly said i can't, not that there isn't much to whine about.

tantalus
08 Apr 14,, 20:28
OF COURSE, there is always carrying the neutralization of stress a bit too far as Kryten pointed out in "Rimmerworld":

" Are you of the school that, when faced with bad news, prefers to hear that news naked and unvarnished, or are you of the ilk that prefers to live in happy and blissful ignorance of the nightmare you're facing?"
Stress is a broad set of responses, but with that caveat in mind, the ultimate cause of why we stress so much is surely an evolutionary one. People who stressed outlived the relaxed ones, who made a tasty breakfast for a saber toothed tiger, or were outcompeted by the stress balls who foraged relentlessly for food. Stress is part of a survival strategy. However, these adaptations do not make us particularly well-suited to modern life, so we stress under a wide range of unorthodox scenarios, and those who cope best are on average, probably more likely to succeed in society.

The evolutionary origins of stress hint of the impossibility of ever escaping it, and the fact that our species evolved in small social groups with a foraging lifestyle, hints that we possess poorly adapted capabilities of coping with many modern day life challenges. That said, modern western problems seem fairly benign to being eaten by a tiger or starving to death, so we are probably faring better stress wise overall.

Tronic
09 Apr 14,, 02:26
A lot of stress is made worse by people in their own mind.
For instance by running very negative scenarios in their mind over and over again.
If you don't do that you reduce a lot of stress.

That summed it up well.

sated buddha
09 Apr 14,, 05:56
I clearly said i can't, not that there isn't much to whine about.

Which only means this time around she's not over your shoulder, and when she does check and see this, you're gonna feign drunken amnesial blackouts.

Tamara
09 Apr 14,, 08:25
Arriving at work this morning, I mentioned something with my departing coworker, intra agency rivalries, and then coming back up stairs, I got to thinking about how I would react if TPTB wanted me to cross train again for another week, this right after I had done with my tension breaking sudden breaking into character 3 second displays with that co worker when.......

Stop it.......don't think and dwell on such. I'll burn that bridge in and when I come to it.

.......................and here we are.